Dear Jane, Work Stress Migraines
We recently hired a new assistant to join our team and instead of taking things off of my plate, I feel more stressed and overwhelmed than ever.
I’m doing my best to on-board him but I find that I have to show him how to do the work and then I have to go back and re-do it myself to make sure it’s exactly how I like it done.
The added pressure and stress has caused my migraines to kick into high gear with tension headaches, blurred vision, and intense pain at my jaw joints.
I do like our new hire and he’s a great fit into the culture of our company and team, so I’m not sure what to do but I know that I can’t go on with the added stress, tension, and headaches.
Jane, how do I stop these painful migraines without firing our new assistant?
– Mighty Migraines
Be open to letting go of control and allowing others to do things in their own authentic way.”
Dear Mighty Migraines,
What I’m sensing from your letter is that there might be a little bit of a micromanagement leadership style on your part that’s causing you additional, and most likely, unnecessary stress. So be open to letting go of control and allowing others to do things in their own authentic way.
As long as your new assistant isn’t making meaningful mistakes, letting him do things in his own way might prove to be even more effective in the long term. It will also free up your time and energy to focus on the parts of your job that you enjoy doing. Trust me, letting go is the fastest way to easing your stress and your migraines.
But since learning how to let go of control might take some time, I would suggest stocking up on the Going Somewhere? bundles. Massage the soothing Pain, Pain, Go Away Cream into your temples when you feel a migraine coming on, throughout your day as needed, before bed, and in the morning. Also, using the cream may alleviate pain in your jaw joints where you’ve been holding stress and tension as well.
When you start your day, enjoy a Hello Mellow capsule which may help you get a jumpstart on calming your mind and easing your anxiety. As needed and as directed, take more capsules if you start to feel stressed out or overwhelmed.
I would also suggest talking to your new assistant and asking him to communicate with you when he feels like you’re being overbearing and micromanaging.
Having him hold you accountable will help you to keep your stress levels down so you can focus on your own work instead of trying to control how everyone else does theirs.
Letting go might not be easier, but freeing your mind from unnecessary stress and anxiety is well worth it. You got this, sis.
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