Dear Jane, Thinking Of Plastic Surgery – Yay or Nay?
I have to come clean about something. I’ve been secretly thinking about getting some elective surgery. Nothing too drastic, just a nip here or a tuck there. The thing is, I’ve always prided myself on being a confident and all-natural woman.
I’ve gone on a few self-righteous tirades about how women should love their bodies and stop trying to morph into a Kardashian clone.
So as you can see, I would be absolutely mortified if my friends knew how badly that I wanted to suck all of the fat out of my tummy and inject it into my butt.
I’d feel like a fraud and hypocrite if I actually got the surgery but as I get older, things are just sagging and it’s harder to lose the weight.
What should I do? Can I still be a confident and self-assured woman if I go under the knife in the name of vanity?
– Wannabe Barbie
Have clarity on your intention and so that you’re making a decision from a place of inner peace and not from one of seeking validation through outer beauty.”
Dear Wannabe Barbie,
I’m all about women empowerment, which to me, means that women have the authority over their own life choices – which includes elective plastic surgery. But I hear you, wanting to have a nip and a tuck might seem counterintuitive to being a strong and confident woman. But it isn’t.
If your intention behind the elective surgery is to fix something about your body that won’t change through a healthy diet and exercise or simply something because it’ll make you feel better about yourself, then I say grab a few tubes of the Pain, Pain Go Away Cream to help ease your aches and pains while you recover post-surgery and get your glow up.
But also be sure to do your due diligence and find a reputable plastic surgeon, and get ready to eat some crow when it comes to explaining your surgery to your friends. But I do want to stress the importance of the intentionality behind your choice to get plastic surgery. As long as you’re not deriving your self-worth and value from the surgery, then I think it’s okay to see what your options are but perhaps try a few non-invasive ways first and use plastic surgery as a last resort.
A few tips on getting clear on your intentions, I’d suggest taking a Hello Mellow capsule to ease your anxiety and then meditate on why you want the surgery. Then during your nighttime routine, take a Nighty Night capsule about 30 minutes before bed so you can have a restorative and peaceful night’s sleep.
Do this for a few days and this combination of calming your mind during the day and getting quality sleep at night will help you have a clear mind. That way you have clarity on your intention and you’re making the decision from a grounded place of inner peace and not from one of seeking validation through outer beauty.
Either way, your gorgeous love.
Jane is the fictional heroine of the Betoken lifestyle blog, Good For Jane. Think of Jane as your virtual BFF. She lives a healthy lifestyle, but not like, over the top. When it’s not a pandemic, she loves hanging out with her friends, dating, and exercising in public. Throughout the pandemic she has baked her fair share of sourdoughs, gotten more than her fair share of takeout to “support her local restaurants”, ordered wine online and taken plenty of CBD to keep the anxiety at bay.
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