Dear Jane, Suffering from Body Image Anxiety
Now that everyone is posting about having their ‘Hot Girl Summers,’ I’m starting to feel a bit insecure about the extra pandemic pounds that I’ve packed on over the last year or so. I can’t imagine putting on a bathing suit and none of my skinny jeans still fit.
I’m feeling anxious about showing my body and seeing all of the influencers on social media makes me feel inadequate. I hate showing my upper arms because they feel flabby and my stomach has more of a pouch than a 6-pack.
I know that I should feel beautiful no matter what, but I can’t help but feel like I’m the ugly duckling in a sea full of swimsuit models.
Jane, how do I start feeling confident in my skin when I feel ashamed of the body that’s staring back at me in the mirror?
– Anxious and Ashamed
All bodies are beautiful and people are attracted to different shapes and sizes, so you are attractive as-is, whether or not you’ve gained a few quarantine pounds.”
Dear Anxious and Ashamed,
Let’s all take a collective sigh at having gained the quarantine 15. Normally, I would say stock up on some Pain, Pain Go Away Cream, which is an all-natural way to alleviate aches and pain that might be caused by sore muscles and joints from workouts and exercises, and put together a healthy diet regime and a workout plan so that you can bounce back and get your ‘Hot Girl Summer’ body plan.
But, I think that your body image anxiety might be more than skin deep and is rooted in something that is bigger than just doing a juice cleanse so that you can comfortably slide back into your skinny jeans. So don’t fret, below are a few ideas for how you can say goodbye to your body image anxiety and hello to your ‘Hot Girl Summer.’
Change Your Mindset
I would first find a therapist, counselor, or some support group that can help you to get to the root cause of you comparing your body to others as a way to determine your self-worth. Of course, wanting to look and feel your best is important, but just because your body type isn’t an ‘Instagram Model’ silhouette that doesn’t mean that you should hide or be ashamed of your body. All bodies are beautiful and people are attracted to different shapes and sizes, so you are attractive as-is, whether or not you’ve gained a few quarantine pounds.
Clean Up Your Feeds
I would do a social media cleanse. This means going through all of the Instagram profiles that you follow and either mute, unfollow, or block the accounts that are triggering you. Take a Hellow Mellow capsule to ease your mind, calm your thoughts, and soothe your anxiety, and start to be mindful of the content that you’re consuming online. Start following accounts that empower you and that normalize honoring all body types. The more you start to surround yourself by support and content that affirms your quicker you’ll start to love the skin that you’re in.
Reconnect With Your Body
I wouldn’t focus so much on losing weight, but instead I would focus on getting comfortable with your body exactly as it is. Invest in the Big Night In Bundle and enjoy peaceful and restorative sleep, so that you start your days with a clear head. Then use the Pain, Pain, Go Away Cream to massage your muscles and rub onto your skin to get comfortable with how your body feels in a healthy way. Soak in the CBD-infused hot bath and reconnect with your body. It might feel weird at first, but touch your body and speak lovingly to every inch of you.
Jane is the fictional heroine of the Betoken lifestyle blog, Good For Jane. Think of Jane as your virtual BFF. She lives a healthy lifestyle, but not like, over the top. When it’s not a pandemic, she loves hanging out with her friends, dating, and exercising in public. Throughout the pandemic she has baked her fair share of sourdoughs, gotten more than her fair share of takeout to “support her local restaurants”, ordered wine online and taken plenty of CBD to keep the anxiety at bay.
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