Dear Jane, My Job Is Stressing Me Out
Since the lockdown, I’ve been working from home like many others across the country and the world. But I actually thought that it would be a nice respite from the usual day-to-day grind of my mundane job.
However, it’s really shone a light on just how much I hate my job. It’s your typical 9-to-5, not too stressful but a lot of bureaucracy coupled with needless emails, Zoom calls, and passive-aggressive co-workers.
I dread getting up in the morning and logging into my computer, the same way that I used to dread settling into my cubicle. And now, I’ve found that I’m starting to get tension headaches and an upset stomach from the anxiety of having to spend my life trapped in my monotonous job.
I know that should feel fortunate to still be employed during the pandemic, but I just feel empty on the inside reliving the same boring day over and over again. What should I do?
– Joyless in my job
Yes, be grateful that you are employed during the pandemic, but you are always deserving of doing what you love, regardless of what’s going on in the world.
Dear Joyless In My Job,
The first thing I would do is create an exit strategy from your current job. Life is way too short to be stuck in a rut doing something that you hate. But make sure that when you make your leap into your next career move, that you have a little nest egg of savings.
Over the weekend, I would enjoy the 24 Hour Magic duo that has both the Hellow Mellow and Nighty Night capsules and may ease your anxiety from the work week, ensuring that you have a peaceful and restorative night’s rest so that you can face your days with a fresh new perspective.
If you don’t know what new job or career you want to go into, then I would write out a list of everything that you enjoy doing and what you’re really good at doing. Review the list and see if any career choice naturally comes up and see what types of jobs are in alignment with what you love doing and what you’re good at doing.
But don’t limit yourself, you can always learn a new skill or build a team of people within your business who have the skills that you lack. Dream big. The last thing that you want to do is go from one unfilling job into another one.
Then I would refresh my resume, update my LinkedIn profile, make a list of people that you know who might be able to help you get interviews or start a new business, and I would start saving and investing wisely. From there, I would start applying for new jobs or working on starting my own business.
Yes, be grateful that you are employed during the pandemic, but you are always deserving of doing what you love, regardless of what’s going on in the world. Use that feeling of gratitude to create a life and career that serves the highest version of yourself from the inside out.
Jane is the fictional heroine of the Betoken lifestyle blog, Good For Jane. Think of Jane as your virtual BFF. She lives a healthy lifestyle, but not like, over the top. When it’s not a pandemic, she loves hanging out with her friends, dating, and exercising in public. Throughout the pandemic she has baked her fair share of sourdoughs, gotten more than her fair share of takeout to “support her local restaurants”, ordered wine online and taken plenty of CBD to keep the anxiety at bay.
Jane is also the editor of the Dear Jane column. If you have a question for Jane, you can email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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