Dear Jane, I’m Ashamed of My Nine-to-Five
When growing up, getting a well-paid corporate or office job was the ultimate goal. You can clock in and clock out with a guaranteed paycheck every two weeks. The comfort and security of a regular job was something to be coveted and sought-after. But now, with the rise of the ‘work-from-home life,’ I feel ashamed to have a boring 9-to-5.
Everyone on social media is posting about starting a new business or about how empowering it is to be an entrepreneur. Now I feel like having a regular job isn’t good enough or that somehow I’m being left behind on being a part of the boss babe movement.
I’m fairly happy at my job but I wouldn’t call it my calling or that I’m passionate about sitting at a desk all day. Since I’ve been second-guessing my career choices, my anxiety and stress levels have gone off the charts. I hate this newfound feeling of uneasiness that my life might be passing me by as I sit in my cubicle clicking away at spreadsheets.
Jane, I’m anxious about wasting away at my 9-to-5. What should I do to ease the stress?
– Anxious and Ashamed
The trick is to commit to creating a life that fulfills you from the inside out and to make a plan to bring it to life.”
Dear Anxious and Ashamed,
The pressure to be an independent boss babe is intense. First, as a female entrepreneur paving her own way in her industry, and then yes, as a professional woman working a regular corporate or office job to provide for herself and her family.
So just because you’re not a work-from-homer that doesn’t mean that you still don’t have a lot to be proud of as a working woman. Plus, it’s completely normal to second-guess your career choice.
The reality is, whether you work a 9-to-5 or if you own a small business, it’s completely natural to question if you’re on the right path in life. So take yourself off of the hook and know that you’re not alone. Also, stop comparing your life to social media posts. Facebook and Instagram should not be your barometer for how you feel about yourself.
With that being said, it couldn’t hurt to take a step back and re-evaluate if you’re feeling stifled at your job because of social media comparison culture, or if it’s because your soul is yearning for something new. Write down what you like and dislike about your job and if you’re feeling like making a change, then see what types of jobs are in alignment with your strengths and passions
Remember, being an entrepreneur isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. The trick is to commit to creating a life that fulfills you from the inside out and to make a plan to bring it to life. In the meantime, I would stock up on the 24 Hour Magic bundle to help ease your stress and anxiety while figuring out your next career move.
To assist in calming your mind and destressing your nerves, the bundle comes with a jar of Hello Mellow capsules that you can take as directed and throughout the day for when you’re feeling overwhelmed and need a reset.
The restorative bundle also has a jar of Nighty Night capsules for a peaceful night’s sleep so you can wake up with a clear head and ready to face your day, whether it’s from an at-home office or at a corporate office.
But whether you clock in at a corporate job or you beat to your own career drum, you’re still an admirable boss babe.
Jane is the fictional heroine of the Betoken lifestyle blog, Good For Jane. Think of Jane as your virtual BFF. She lives a healthy lifestyle, but not like, over the top. When it’s not a pandemic, she loves hanging out with her friends, dating, and exercising in public. Throughout the pandemic she has baked her fair share of sourdoughs, gotten more than her fair share of takeout to “support her local restaurants”, ordered wine online and taken plenty of CBD to keep the anxiety at bay.
Jane is also the editor of the Dear Jane column. If you have a question for Jane, you can email her at email@example.com.
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